2026 Energy, Kali Embodied
2026 is the Year of the Fire Horse and will be full of unbridled, transformative energy and I am so here for it! To prepare myself, I have spent long hours contemplating my vision and purpose. The thing I love most in the world is holding space for people, especially through their struggles and pain. This desire led me first to be a dominatrix, then a funeral director, and ultimately, a sex coach. I go to yoga everyday and have long been fascinated by the Hindu goddess Kali. As I move through my practice, readying my mind and strengthening my body and stamina to prepare me for work, my thoughts often turn to her.
Kali is the goddess of time, death and the destruction of things to make room for new growth to emerge. She is seen as the Divine Mother and is said to have a special fondness for men who approach her seeking nurturing and comfort. Kali is also a goddess of fertility and sexuality and in some Hindu tantra is worshipped as a goddess of sexual union. She is known as a dominant sexual partner, often depicted straddling her consort.
If you know me at all, even a little, you can understand why Kali and all that she embodies resonates with me. Every day I seek to make space in my heart for people in both my work and my personal life. In my work, my clients are mostly men. I give them room and sanctuary to express their sexual desires always I am seeking to assist them in overcoming their barriers to achieving sexual joy in themselves or with partners. I unpack kinks, I teach new techniques to pleasure themselves, sort through issues with dating and the lack of it and help resolve conflicts with partners. I love every second of it.
Another aspect of my work that I really love is talking to people about their grief. Grief isn’t always centered on death of a human, but also expectation. However, when the death of a loved one has occurred, I am equipped to help navigate the pain. One of the most honored intersections of my chosen vocations is helping people rediscover their sexual needs after loss, trauma or illness.
All I want to do all day, every day, is to help people feel better. Often people ask me why I don’t become a licensed therapist, and the reason is simple. People don’t generally share with their psychologists about the sexual fears and needs they can hardly reconcile with themselves. Men are given so much sexual agency and have so much expectation packed upon them, but society also blows off the importance of their sexual needs and shames them for having them. It is no surprise to me why men cope with stress with masturbation, often seeking porn that ultimately depletes them of dopamine and leaves them feeling hollow and craving connection and validation.
Each day, I take care of myself in such a way that I am full of energy and vitality to greet people and meet them where they are at, sexually and emotionally. Free from loneliness and suffering, joy and pleasure abounds, and the world is a little better and happier, one person at a time. I am grateful for every session, and the generosity of those who come to me. These wonderful people allow me to make my passion my vocation. As I seek to align my world with all that is sacred and meaningful to me and maybe embodying a little bit of that Kali energy along the way, I offer myself to you with all the joy and energy that is within me. My metric of success is not always the sum of dollars at the end of the day, though I am forced to live in a world where I must make a living, but the amount of pleasure, happiness and sometimes relief my efforts bring. Thank you for reading and being here. I am always here for you.
Happy New Year!
